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Hello, I'm Karla Mitchell. Going through a legal case can be very expensive and challenging. I won't go into details, but I recently underwent my own legal battle that lasted several years. It is finally over and I successfully received a settlement, but I had to spend so much time studying law in order to play my role in my own court case. While I found a great attorney at one point, I felt completely lost initially and I don't want anyone else to experience the same thing. So I decided to create this blog for those who would like to know more about law.


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Waiting To Get Divorced: Why It Is A Bad Idea

by Andrew Martin

Fifty percent of all first marriages end in divorce in the United States. Sixty-seven percent of second marriages also end in divorce, so the idea that you will "get it right the second time" or that your first marriage was a "practice marriage" is not a good way to look at things. If you think that your marriage may be one of those that is not meant to last, you may be doing yourself a favor by finding a divorce attorney sooner rather than later. Waiting to get divorced can make many situations much worse, and here is how.

Ten Years Equals Social Security Benefits

Regardless of what state you live in, if you remain married to someone for at least ten years, you are entitled to each other's social security benefits when you retire or when one spouse passes away. The only stipulation that changes that is remarriage. Of course, you can avoid giving your soon-to-be-ex-spouse any of your retirement income if you divorce before your tenth wedding anniversary. Otherwise, you may be returning to court to argue who gets what when both of you are old and gray (and still single).

Ten Years Also Equals Alimony

Ten years is the magic number for alimony. No-fault divorce states award alimony after you have lived together as husband and wife for a decade. This includes common law marriages as well. At-fault states require alimony after ten years, but it is the person who was unfaithful that has to pay the alimony to the faithful spouse. (It should be noted that all states offer no-fault divorces and while couples have the option of filing for at-fault divorces, this route is much less common.) If both of you were unfaithful, then neither of you may get alimony; a judge would have to decide.

Domestic Abuse Gets Worse, Not Better

Domestic abuse always gets worse, not better. Staying in a marriage where your partner physically, sexually, verbally, emotionally, psychologically, and financially abuses you is not healthy and you do not have to stay in that situation just because of your marriage vows. Furthermore, staying in that relationship teaches your children that abuse is an acceptable trade-off for being in a relationship, and that it is completely okay for people to mistreat them. You are not the only one affected by waiting to get divorced, and you should not stay in the marriage for the children's sake if what they witness causes them to allow others to hurt them.